
Clive is now 9 weeks old and showing no signs of sleeping through the night. Truthfully, that's my fault. I didn't do any reading or mental preparation before Clive was born to prepare me for these newborn days. I just figured, hey, I've been there done that. I'll know what to do when the time comes. Plus I was so stressed by the
Babywise philosophy with Chloe that I vowed not to go down that same road with Clive.
But now we have an unorganized overtired baby on our hands. I've found that I don't routinely put him down to nap in the same place and that I don't use the same soothing techniques each time. Yesterday we had a horrible day with Clive. He never took a good solid nap despite all our rocking, singing, and soothing efforts. I even resorted to driving him around to get him to fall asleep. That's something I've never done before but we were desperate! After a long day of only a few dozes and much fussy crying, he finally konked out at 11 p.m.
A girlfriend of mine had recommended the book
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child to me when I was pregnant. I smiled politely and thanked her for the advice never dreaming I'd need any help with baby #2. What was I thinking?!
After reading a few chapters last night I was shocked to read such an accurate description of our overtired Clive! Dr. Weissbluth stresses the importance of putting babies down to nap in a 1-2 hour window after waking up. He says (and I can attest to this through our experience with Clive) that once a baby passes through the "drowsy" window he becomes overtired. And an overtired baby is VERY difficult to put to sleep. In fact, rocking or soothing an overtired is actually counter-productive causing additional stimulation.
So, this week I'll be actively putting Dr. Weissbluth's suggestions into practice including:
- watching closely during the 1-2 hour window for Clive's drowsy signals
- soothing him consistently in the same manner before naptime
- putting him down in the same place for each nap (his bassinet upstairs away from the loud downstairs activity)
- letting him eat what he needs to rather than trying to force him to eat a certain amount at each feeding
- keeping a sleep log
- staying close to home so he can nap for longer chunks of time
A lot of what I've read from Dr. Weissbluth thus far makes sense. Here are some of the segments that I found especially helpful . . .
"It comes as a surprise to many parents that healthy sleep habits do
not develop automatically. In fact, parents can and do help or hinder the development of their child's healthy sleep habits."
"Sleep training means starting to respect your baby's need to sleep by anticipating when he will need to sleep (within one to two hours of wakefulness), learning to recognize drowsy signs, and developing a bedtime routine. Then your baby will not become overtired."
"Two hours of wakefulness is about the maximum that most babies can endure without becoming overtired. Try to soothe him to sleep before he becomes overtired - before he becomes crabby, irritable, pulls his hair, or bats his ears. . . . Expect your overtired child to protest when she is put down to sleep."
"Remember that your baby is fighting sleep for the pleasure of your company. . . . Always going to your child when he needs sleep robs him of sleep."
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Those are just a few of the common sense (and yet enlightening) thoughts of Dr. Weissbluth's that I'm totally latching on to as sleep strategies for Clive. I'll keep you posted on how things go! Today has been FANTASTIC so far.
What strategies do you (or did you) employ for your little ones?